In spite of the many men out there who have blamed Eve throughout the ages for the fall of creation, there is sufficient biblical evidence to support the argument that it was actually Adam who “started it:”
The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. And the LORD God commanded the man, "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die." The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (Genesis 2:15-18).
Thus, God made Adam completely responsible for keeping that tree off limits. Eve had not even been created yet. She was ignorant of any such directive. And make no mistake – Satan approached Eve on purpose. The devil hates God’s design, so he deliberately perverted it by putting Eve in charge, forcing Adam into submission. And Adam allowed it to happen:
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.(Genesis 3:6).
The Bible clearly states that Adam was with Eve when she ate the fruit. As leader, he stood there and watched as the serpent deceived his bride. As protector, he did not intervene and try to stop her when she put herself in harm's way. He knew God said eating that fruit would kill her. Yet he did nothing as she took a bite and swallowed the poison. Then he ate for himself.
The scriptures further note that God later came walking in the garden looking for Adam, because it was Adam who was originally accountable. Adam's response? Blame Eve. (Genesis 3:9-12).
Gut check: how are you feeling right now? Justified? Vindicated? How about . . . self-righteous? If you chose C, you are correct! As women, we often like to blame men for our behavior: "See? It's his fault! If only he would lead, I wouldn't have to take control," or, "If he was a more responsible protector/provider, I would happily submit." While it is true that Adam sinned, God still dealt with Eve separately. He still held her accountable for her actions, and He will do the same with each and every one of us.
Feminism is a direct reaction to both real and perceived injustices done to women on behalf of men, whether directly or indirectly. Though this implies that “he started it,” the question of whom is primarily responsible for the breakdown of God’s design for the sexes is irrelevant. Feminism is a sinful reaction to sin. Though it may appear as though female rebellion is justified, it is not. Sin is never justified. Two wrongs do not make a right. You will not be able to rationalize your behavior and say to God “he started it," or, "he made me do it” because the Bible is clear that we are tempted by our own evil desires and carried away by our own lusts (James 1:14). Who is to blame for our sin? We are. No one can make us sin.
The story of Adam’s unfaithfulness does not prove anything other than the fact that both men and women are equally depraved. If you are blaming men for your contentious and argumentative behavior, you need to ask God’s forgiveness and repent. Women may not be the spiritual leaders, but they can still initiate reconciliation with the men in their lives by submitting to their leadership. Consider the Genesis story as you meditate on 1 Timothy 2:8-15 and ask yourself what is more important: getting your way, or doing your part to restore what God originally intended?