I love the film Pride and Prejudice!
But I wondered why are Jane Austin’s novels so popular today? They have stood the test of time and are more popular than ever! But what has equally made me wonder is why, if the modern woman really is independent, strong, able to hold her own then why would she love such a film as Pride and Prejudice? Granted, Miss Elizabeth Bennet is a force to be reckoned with, and has a side women today can relate to. She is not afraid to speak her mind, refuse not one but two marriage proposals (practically unheard of then I’m sure) and in a society where women weren’t allowed to work and all inheritance goes to the male she wasn’t interested in marrying for the money. The answer, I believe, is the attraction seen in the conduct and fulfilment of the role of the man.
I’m certainly no expert but I do know that the women in that era were squashed and they weren’t always treated with the respect due from men. But in characters such as Mr. Darcy we see the masculine instincts being lavishly and appropriately being shown on the woman. We also see that the strengths of both Mr Darcy and Miss Bennet strengthen any weaknesses in one another. They complement each other, as how it should be in marriages. It is beautiful to see these roles being fulfilled while both the man and woman are in their rightful order, God’s created order.
Quite simply women (generally speaking) love Mr Darcy because he represents what has been lost in recent history. But if we want our Mr Darcy’s back we women must recover our own true femininity. However, In looking at the masculine man this month it has been easy to blame the women’s movement for the loss of true masculinity and femininity. But as John Piper so clearly put it:
If I were to put my finger on one devastating sin today, it would not be the so-called women’s movement, but the lack of spiritual leadership by men at home and in the church. Satan has achieved an amazing tactical victory by disseminating the notion that the summons for male leadership is born of pride and fallen ness, when in fact pride is precisely what prevents spiritual leadership. The spiritual aimlessness and weakness and lethargy and loss of nerve among men is the major issue, not the upsurge of interest in women’s ministries.
Pride and self-pity and fear and laziness and confusion are luring many men into self-protecting, self-exalting cocoons of silence. And to the degree that this makes room for women to take more leadership it is sometimes even endorsed as a virtue. But I believe that deep down the men-and the women-know better.
Where are the men with a moral vision for their families, a zeal for the house of the
Lord, a magnificent commitment to the advancement of the kingdom, an articulate dream for the mission of the church and a tender-hearted tenacity to make it real?
Where are the men indeed! Isn’t this what we so often hear women ask today? Yet unwittingly they are unaware of the fact they are hindering the return of the man they lost. But on the other side we need the men to rise up regardless! Men who do have a "moral vision for their families, a zeal for the house of the Lord, a magnificent commitment to the advancement of the kingdom, an articulate dream for the mission of the church and a tender-hearted tenacity to make it real."
In fighting for what they deemed as freedom (which as we will later see was not true freedom), they got what they wanted yet in the process they gradually lost not only true freedom but something else at the same time. Could it be women are having regrets and second thoughts, questioning whether it was all worth it and is it too late? No, not if true Godly men and women prayerfully seek to recover biblical man and womanhood. Ladies, our Mr. Darcy's may have been in front of our very eyes all along!